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I have been single for years. And I realized that being single wasn't so bad after all. I also learn a lot from being single. Many people think the adolescent years, or during your teenage years, you should be having fun, having boyfriends or girlfriends, hang out with your friends, and things like that. And when you have done that, that's when they say that you are enjoying life. But I personally think that that is a very narrow way to think of how you should live your life.

I often hear girls complain whenever they are in the single status, because they think when they're single their popularity degrades, they are no longer the "it" girls, or in Indonesia they would say, "Lo ga gaul!" Well, after being single for years (in my teenage years) I realize that this is a totally wrong perception or mindset. There is nothing wrong with being single. Yes you might feel lonely at sometime, you might be jealous of your friends who have those special person who supports in them in what they do, but don't we remember that even before we met our boyfriends and girlfriends, even before we met our friends, our family is already there first for us. They're the ones who always stand up for us, through the goods and the bad. This is actually why I enjoy being a single girl up until now (and still committing to be one until I graduate from my bachelor's degree).

But the question that pops in your mind would probably be, why remain single when can be in a  relationship? That's a nice questions! Well let me tell you why

1. You have more time to spend with your family -The best thing that you can spend on your family is TIME. My own principle of life is that spend as much as time with your family, because you don't when you're going to be separated from them. I have been living with this principle even before my dad passed away, which is why I'm more of a home-person or family-oriented person.

2. You can try new things - Maybe some of you who are reading this second reason is thinking, "well we can try new things with our boyfriend/girlfriend," but the question I want to ask you back is that, is your boyfriend/girlfriend seriously willing to try those new things with you? What if they hate that new thing you want to try? See, you don't know for sure. And rather than being in uncertainty of whether you're going to be in accordance with your partner, I suggest you try things by yourself. Right?

3. You have more time to do things of your own - During our adolescent years, we need to be able to do a lot of things, and I believe that we can only achieve it if we don't spend too much time being with your boyfriend/girlfriend (especially when you have an overly attached boyfriend/girlfriend, definitely UGH!). For example like me right now, I get to join a lot of organizations and clubs and through that I can experience lots of things that maybe I won't be experiencing if I had a boyfriend. And I do believe it is not a waste of time to actually be a part of all these organizations, since there are so many things that aren't taught theoretically and can only be gained by doing it.

4. You don't want to go through broken-heart moments hundred times - As far as I know, many of the girls who go through break-ups takes quite some time to "recover". But my point is, if you could safe your heart from hundreds of break-ups then why not? Because crying for a guy who will not be our wedded husband is a definite waste of time (but this doesn't apply to our father, because girls, he will always be your number one man! :) ).

Well I hope those reasons above might convince to spending your time to yourself first~ Do leave a comment about what you think personally on being single.

xoxo,
Femme 😘

Isaiah 55:1-3
“Come, everyone who thirsts,
come to the waters;
and he who has no money,
come, buy and eat!
Come, buy wine and milk
without money and without price.
Why do you spend your money for that which is not bread,
and your labor for that which does not satisfy?
Listen diligently to me, and eat what is good,
and delight yourselves in rich food.
Incline your ear, and come to me;
hear, that your soul may live;
and I will make with you an everlasting covenant,
my steadfast, sure love for David.
Men are never satisfied.
1 John 3:20
for whenever our heart condemns us, God is greater than our heart, and he knows everything.
God is bigger than anything in this world.
Psalms 119:97
Oh how I love your law!
It is my meditation all the day.
Renungkan firman Tuhan sampai kita mengerti.
Romans 1:16
The Righteous Shall Live by Faith
For I am not ashamed of the gospel, for it is the power of God for salvation to everyone who believes, to the Jew first and also to the Greek.
The word of the Lord is our strength. Who can enjoy the goodness of the Lord:
1. People who are hungry and thirsty of the word of the Lord
2. People who can give thanks to the Lord
Orang yang bersungut-sungut tidak bisa melihat masa depan.
3. People who put aside their weight and sins
Ephesians 5:20
giving thanks always and for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ,
Hebrews 12:1
Chapter 12
Jesus, Founder and Perfecter of Our Faith
Therefore, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us also lay aside every weight, and sin which clings so closely, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us,
Menyesal = membenci diri sendiri dan berbuat lagi
Bertobat = berbalik san meninggalkan. METANOIA

Well hello lovely people. How have you all been doing? I hope you are well. As for me personally, I'm still trying to strengthen myself as a few weeks ago my father passed away, and believe it or not he passed away right on Valentine's Day. It was all a shock for us, for me personally. Because there was no sign of him being very ill or anything, and I remembered just the day before he went away I was still on the phone with him, talking about my exam. But I guess only God's will that can happen in our life. And that it was God's will for my dad to go back to heaven.

taken in Venezia, 2003

From emptiness to fullness!
Ruth 1
Mahlon: sickly
Chilion: weak or consumptive
Elimelech: my God is my King
God's blessing is progressive. Make sure there's King in our life!
Our God is a God of unusual kindness. Sow unusual kindness. Two outcomes of a process; better OR bitter. Which one are you? Our God is a God of fullness. Dalam Tuhan kita harus siap menerima kelimpahan.
1. Be committed! Make decisions!
There's always risk to commitment. Be a (calculated) risk-taker. Committed and decisive.
Eve: life-giver
Ruth 2
2. Be diligent!
Ruth 3
3. Be submitted!
Provision (supply), protection, promotion: qualities of a husband. Good, godly, gentle man.
Ruth 4
4. Be blessed! Blessed to bless